Americans' Fathers' Lessness

When You Think Your Head is the Problem

Reconciling Authority and Honor in the Home

There is a war in the Christian household. It is not fought with fists or knives, but with silence, sarcasm, avoidance, and subtle slander. It is a war of the heart and tongue, where authority is made suspect, and where the biblical ordering of husband and wife has been replaced by the therapeutic imagination of our age.

To Silence the Men

This work is not a complaint. It is not a vendetta. It is a lantern, held up in the dark, for the man who walks alone in his own house, wondering why his voice carries no weight, why his efforts are met with eye rolls, why his children mimic the disrespect they see unchecked in their mother, and why he—though working, feeding, building, defending—is cast as the problem when he finally speaks.

1. The Modern Spirit of Subversion

We live in the age of egalitarian revolt, where strength is oppression and leadership is abuse. In this upside-down order, when a man disciplines with calm clarity, he is labeled angry. When he calls for respect, he is met with accusations of pride. When he commands, as Scripture tells him to, he is told he is controlling, dangerous, even unsafe.

Meanwhile, a woman may cry, withdraw, cast judgment upon her husband’s intentions, and walk away from his voice—all in the name of self-protection—and the world calls it strength. This is not biblical submission. This is the gospel of the matrilineal State, not the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

2. The Irony of Accusation

What many men face today is not just disagreement—it is inversion. The more rudeness he receives, the more he is accused of being rude. The more he attempts to bring peace, the more he is accused of making war. He speaks, and they leave. He stays, and they say he’s threatening. He prays, and they call it manipulation. He leads, and they cry rebellion.

This is not new. It is the same spirit that called Elijah a troubler of Israel (1 Kings 18:17), the same spirit that said Jesus had a demon (John 8:48). It is the spirit that hates headship and calls good evil.

3. What the Man of God Must Do

You must not give in. You must not return evil for evil, nor shrink into silence, nor hand over your house to the chaos. You must:

• Stand still when they walk out, and not chase.

• Speak plainly even when they twist your words.

• Hold the line even if you hold it alone.

The truth is: being misunderstood is not the same as being wrong. And being hated does not mean you have failed. Jesus was hated. So were all the prophets. And many of them wept alone, just like you.

But the house still stands when its foundation is sure. And your role as head is given—not taken. It is from Christ.

And what He gives, no one can revoke.

More tomorrow… 🤟🦊🧩⚙️🌀🍕🌟

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